update from October 2011:
The original article is really old, from 2005 and by now I have realized that this is a total utopian dream. You can recognize a totally unexperienced feeder right away by proposing something like this. It has not happened, despite my efforts, not even close. As far as I know, such a thin has never taken place anywhere. Feedees are much too shy to ever agree to something like this, in a time where even face to face meetings for any purpose, even as harmless as just having a coffee are impossible. The closet holds many strongly and keeps them there, often not even having the wish to venture out into the world with their sexual preference. I won't give up though, I have never known when to quit. One day, my friends, this will become reality.
Here something that I would like to realize sometime (with the right people):
A regular meeting in a restaurant of the type "eat as much as you can". Feeder bring their feedees or everybody just comes alone, without knowing themselves beforehand. Officially it is a cozy diner, and the only extraordinary thing is that the women, which are already very big, are eating very (too) much.
This is not by any way a moral lecture, I just show how this would look to normal "Fitness-diet-the-whole-week" person.
Each Feedee is going to be pampered to her favorite food by her (or any) feeder.
For discussion during diner I see all kinds of subjects, only weight gain and diets would be off limits. While the food is piled up by all these lovely "waiters", each feeder can gently feel out the limit of a feedee, maybe provide gentle pressure for her to eat even more, to "top her off" completely.
The main goal of my idea of this meeting is to provide a enjoyable and "funny glances"-free environment, in which a woman can eat (or gorge and guzzle) freely. The only attention a feedee would get in this context would be the admiring glances and encouragement of their "waiters". "Are you sure you are full already? I am sure you do want a desert still..." The words feeder, fatten or stuff would probably not be used, but everybody would know what is happening.
To make the whole thing even more interesting, many games could be played:
1. Crowning of the gourmet queen: At the beginning of the meal every feedee gets weighted and after the meal again. The one with the biggest difference in weight wins. There would be no time limit and every feedee could eat at her own pace and "fill out the corners".
2. Girth Queen: In the beginning of the meal, every feedee is measured around the belly and again after the meal. The one with the biggest difference wins.
3. Estimation of weight: Feeders estimate the weight of feedees just from looking at them. The one that is closest, wins a golden spoon, with which he is entitled to invite the feedee that he estimated most accurately to an rich meal, in which he feeds her exclusively with this spoon. This special spoon obligates to feed her nonstop with her favorite meals till she is stuffed like a turkey and starts to pant from the fullness.
These awards would probably be held at another locale, after the group has left the place of the feast full and happy. It would of course be embarrassing to many feedees that the other guest of this "all you can eat" restaurant would see them get these awards for "eating like a pig". A more private setting where feeders and feedees and FAs could share their passion together and give the new crowned queen due reference. The queen would next time enjoy the golden spoon and of course defend her title, lest a "hungrier" contestant would take it away from her.
So far with my idea. Like always, I welcome feedback. It is kind of futuristic and I am pretty sure that this would be a first time ever for such an event to take place. An although it might never happen (due to feedees that don't enjoy this sort of thing, feeders are usually more adventurous), I guess I may dream and have the vision at least.